Just don't do it!
By Josie Oldenburg —
We hear over and over again from our missionaries that their paths to the field started with a still small voice that amplified over months, years, sometimes even decades.
Maybe you’ve heard the whisper, but don’t yet know if it’s time to go. You aren’t raising support, packing your bags or saying goodbye yet, but your daily decisions can still significantly help — or hinder — your ability to effectively engage the unreached in a cross-cultural setting.
If even in the very back of your mind, you think you might want to become a missionary, here are some pitfalls to avoid.
1. Don’t ignore your local church
Missionaries represent their sending churches, which also play a crucial role in Jesus’ Great Commission. Get to know your pastors, elders and missions committee members — and let them get to know you — so that God can use them to help determine your steps toward missions. These are the people who will pray for you, encourage you and support you, even though you’re far away. Invest in your local church now so that relationships there will stand the test of time and distance.
Your local congregation also can serve as a place to hone and develop your ministry skills, before you face the added complication of serving in a new culture. It can be easy to love God’s global church in principle — but once you get to the field, you’ll find that God’s global church is made up of a lot of people with the same kinds of issues that the people in your home church face. Learn to serve his people now so that it comes naturally later.
2. Don’t focus solely on your home culture
While you wait, start to gain some experience with other cultures. This site has a good list of books about culture to read, but look for chances to put what you’re reading into practice. That might mean working with international students or seeking out a refugee organization that needs volunteers. It could mean developing a friendship with a neighbor or member of your church who comes from a different cultural background. Don’t worry if the people you connect with now aren’t from the people group you want to work with in the future. Learning what to observe and ask can provide a solid foundation for cultural understanding no matter where God leads you.
3. Don’t stay put
Most of the people who go on a short-term mission trip don’t end up serving as career missionaries. But most career missionaries have taken at least one short-term trip. Short-term trips done well
can help you practice ministry skills and refine where God is leading you. One SEND missionary who didn’t sense any geographic calling went on four trips. Because choosing a place to serve from anywhere in the whole world was so overwhelming, he was thankful that God used each of those opportunities to further refine his call.
4. Don’t take on more debt
Let’s face it: Missionaries aren’t in it for the money. Overseas workers tend to live on tight incomes, or their finances vary from month to month, depending on how much support comes in. While some missions will allow workers to raise support toward paying off their student loans, many other forms of personal debt can prevent people from being able to serve overseas. If you already have debt, don’t let finances keep you from following God’s call to make disciples of all the nations! Start paying down your balance now
so that you’ll have the financial freedom to move later.
5. Don’t waste your mind
Think about what kind of education might serve you well once you’re on the field, and use your time in your home culture to study. Learning a second language — any language — develops study skills that you can apply in the future. Theological education naturally benefits people who want to preach or teach in a national church or Bible school. But opportunities in missions go far beyond traditional, church-based ministries. Marketplace & Development Enterprises
helps people start businesses that have Kingdom impact. Health workers
build bridges of trust into communities. English teachers
naturally discuss important life topics with their students; learning how to teach English to speakers of other languages can make such a ministry more effective. Administrators and financial directors
free up missionaries who don’t have such experience so that they can focus on using their gifts to make disciples among the unreached. God can use your education — any education — to reach this world.
6. Don’t leave out your significant people
Think about the folks who will be affected if God leads you to serve overseas. If you’re married, your spouse and children will see their lives change dramatically, but your move also will mean a sacrifice on the part of your parents, siblings and closest friends. Of course, obeying God’s call is your highest priority, but consider whether it would be wise to start including these other significant people in the discussion. You know your loved ones best, so use your discernment. Some folks might feel unnecessary stress if you bring up the topic of a cross-cultural move while you yourself still have more questions than answers, but some of your loved ones could find great comfort and satisfaction if you invite them to participate in every step of the journey.
7. Don’t go it alone
Even as you seek the Lord’s will about whether you should become a missionary, consider researching missions organizations. There are lots of us out there! Often, these groups work in different parts of the globe, but as you research, you also will notice differences in how finances are handled, in requirements for moving overseas, in approaches to team-building and leadership, and so on. It can be overwhelming to find an organization that’s the right fit for you. Consider compiling a “short list” of excellent organizations now in order to speed up your path to the field later. (Shameless plug: Here’s why we think you should consider adding SEND to your short list.)
Tip: Get the inside scoop by talking with missionaries about their organizations. Do they feel supported, even during tough times? How much influence does the organization exert in helping the missionary choose a local church or a ministry role? In what ways do gender issues influence the ministries in which men and women can participate? Do they feel sufficiently financially stable that they are freed up to focus on reaching the unreached? Does the organization also provide member care for the missionary’s children, or just the adults?
And, above all …
8. Don’t forget to pray!
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Choosing a Missions Organization: Why SEND International Stands Out “Why should I be a missionary through SEND International?” Jenna, a new missionary in Eastern Europe, shared with us what she appreciates about working with SEND. The highlights for her are: - Devotion to prayer - Diligence in communication - Commitment to development - Intentionality in accountability Prayer “Back in September of 2022, the Lord reconnected me with SEND after I had met them a year prior at the Moody Bible Institute. However, before he would sign me up for anything, my Missions Coach encouraged me to pray. He said something to the effect of, "I know that you've been praying on your own for a long time. But as the Church, we are not called to walk alone. So, you and I won't talk for about a month unless you have questions. I want you to go pray with 5 or 6 others from your church about where God is calling you." That October, more than 10 friends prayed with me and we saw God answer as He directed me to Romania. From February 2024 to November 2025, I had the pleasure of being a part of team meetings in Romania with my SEND colleagues. Our meetings were four hours long, two for prayer and two for business. This has been the minimum for our team. There are also prayer meetings with the local churches we partner with, among smaller groups within our team, of course prayer with many of you across the pond, including those at our US office. The organization was built, has been sustained, and continues to run on prayer. This is my favorite thing about SEND. Communication As I mentioned above, we have a two hour block for business / ministry details in each of our meetings. This provides consistency across our team which works alongside three different churches and in a variety of ministries. It also helps us to communicate about the need for change or growth, alongside what is working well. In addition, my team director also meets with each of us, allowing us to communicate needs, considerations, and prayer requests. I've also enjoyed getting to work with SEND workers outside of my immediate region . We receive emails with the minutes from the Europe leadership team, Friday communications from our international director, and information regarding projects that affect our work among the unreached. In December of 2024, our international director at the time wrote a note to my parents for the first Christmas that I was gone. If nothing else had convinced my mom yet, this did. He took the time to care for me, but also to care well for the parents that were sending me (What it meant to my dad and mom for him to do this well has been one of the greatest ways I've been supported.). I also have some pretty wonderful regional directors. These people have prayed alongside us (while also serving in their own countries of service), they have taken time to come visit and encourage our team, and they have also taken the time to encourage the people in our churches. Development SEND has provided much in the area of development and care (spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally). At our regional conference (every three years), there have been medical check ups available, counseling options, and time for connecting with others on the field with similar experience. At our conference last October, I connected with a missionary who served overseas for many years, and is now serving on the administrative side of SEND. She has met with me since then for mentorship and has also invested much of her time recently in preparing a retreat for the singles across Europe. Accountability Over the years I have read and heard amazing stories of how God has worked through missionaries. God has done great things and great things He is still doing! However, people who have committed their lives to the Lord in this way are not “super Christians”. We are still humans with the same struggle against flesh that others have . A major challenge is in being isolated -- living in areas with little to no presence of other believers to sharpen them can cause many difficulties. SEND has been a great resource in this area too. Through my team, I have an accountability partner that I meet with monthly. When my regional director came to visit, he and his wife spent a day with me and asked intentional questions about how I lead, handle conflict, and how I am growing in general as a Christian. In addition, my teammates share their wisdom with me on a regular basis. These things and more have assured me that SEND International is a highly valuable organization and I'm excited to partner with them in service to, for, and with our great God! Interested in being sent by SEND?
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