A Christmas you can carry with you

MISSIONARY LIFE | MISSIONARY KID LIFE
December 2016

By Josie Oldenburg — My three sons are experiencing their first Christmas season in the United States this year. They are not impressed. The tree that fits in our small rented house is too tiny. We moved from Ukraine to Southern California, so there’s no snow. It just doesn’t feel like Christmas, they say.

I get it. Twelve years ago, I started celebrating Christmas in Ukraine. I didn’t have kids yet, but I sure did have traditions that I’d unintentionally hauled with me all the way from California.

To get a tree right after Thanksgiving, my husband and I paid about $40 for a tiny potted version on sale at a nursery, probably intended for someone to plant at their village home. To us, that price seemed normal. Our language teacher, on the other hand, shook her head and laughed about it for years. We understood her reaction four weeks later, when beautiful trees appeared for sale on every street corner — priced at $10 or less and just in time for New Year’s, when Ukrainians decorate trees and give gifts.

As happens in so many areas of a cross-cultural worker’s life, our Christmas season morphed as we abandoned certain American traditions and incorporated some of the lovely ways that Ukrainians celebrate at this time of year.

Christmas cake with Mary, Joseph, Baby Jesus figures
The cake for our January 7 celebration.

We enjoyed a lengthened Christmas season, opening stockings before the kids went to their public school on December 25, giving gifts on January 1 and more quietly marking our Savior’s birth by having friends over for cake and Scripture reading on January 7, when Eastern Orthodox countries observe Christ’s birth.

We treasured those raucous January 1 sts and those quiet January 7ths — and we don’t intend to leave them in Ukraine. We’ve carried them back to California. Some of our SEND women recently gathered online to share other Advent and Christmas traditions they treasure that can be recreated wherever they go:

  • Switch up family devotions. Read a bit of the Christmas story out of the gospels each day in December.
  • Memorize favorite verses about the incarnation. Mine is from Zechariah’s prophecy in Luke 1: “Because of God’s tender mercy, the light from heaven is about to break upon us, to give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, and to guide us to the path of peace.” (New Living Translation)
  • Carry along a few special ornaments and decorations. If you can’t get a traditional tree, click here to see creative “trees” for people living in areas without evergreens.
Blanket fort with three boys in it
This year’s Advent fort — a tradition that’s easy to recreate in almost any context.
  • Build a fort and have a family sleepover around whatever kind of tree you’ve managed to procure.
  • Make your media merry: Watch Christmas movies, read Christmas stories, listen to Christmas music.
  • Serve a special breakfast menu on Christmas morning.
  • Skype with loved ones. If you’re in your home culture, that can mean friends back on the field.
  • Make space: Have your children sort through their toys in December and find somewhere to donate them.

Even with all this intentionality, Christmas naturally highlights one of the hard truths of missionary life: We live far away from many of our beloveds. One longtime SEND missionary said, “To this day I cannot listen to the Christmas carol ‘I’ll be Home for Christmas,’ because I know I won’t be home for Christmas and no, you can’t count on me.”

 

So give yourself (and your family) a break. If it doesn’t “feel” like Christmas, talk about it, but don’t assume your efforts at creating a merry-and-bright season have been in vain. Ask your kids which activities feel essential to Christmas to them and focus your time and effort on those things. And remember, the manger was a place of joy and of grit — it’s okay if your family’s holiday season gets emotionally messy, too.


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